8 Characteristics of Genuinely Appealing People | People typically consider improving their physical appearance when it comes to attractiveness. However, attractiveness is determined by factors other than appearance.
Showing certain personality traits, such as humor and intelligence, for example, can make you more appealing to the opposite sex, and this is true for both men and women across cultures. Also, people are more inclined to like you if you share their values and ideas.
Even in Hollywood, there are numerous stars that are lusted after despite not being “conventionally beautiful looking.” They’re attractive not just because of their appearance or body, but because of their entire package.
People are often thought to be desirable just because they are skilled at presenting their best selves.
So, if you’re having trouble attracting potential partners or lack confidence in social situations, here are eight techniques to improve your attractiveness:
1. Be yourself in every situation, including on social media.
There are those people that you can’t help but be pulled to, even if they aren’t your romantic type. There’s something intriguing and captivating about them.
Whether you like it or not, that something continues showing up. Being in their company makes you feel happy.
It’s their sincerity, to be sure.
Authenticity shines brightly. It fosters trust and meaningful relationships.
Furthermore, when you are true to yourself and communicate your ideals to the world honestly, people will be able to self-select before you have to.
People who share your values will find you more appealing; others who do not share your principles will regard you with respect.
It’s also beneficial to exhibit your true self on social media, as this is where you’ll be viewed the most these days. Being real will help you pick out mismatched mates early on if you use online dating.
2. Pursue your passions.
Nothing is more unpleasant in romantic love than a person who has no life or who despises their life so much that they cling onto others to escape it.
That individual should not be dating; they require expert assistance (like myself in the past).
The trick to having a good relationship with a fantastic spouse is to first have a good relationship with yourself and your life.
Doing what you enjoy is advantageous in a variety of ways:
It makes you feel better.
It’s taking the first step toward creating a life you enjoy.
It boosts your self-assurance and, as a result, your attractiveness.
It introduces you to people who share your interests, and it allows you to connect with them.
It enables you to form significant bonds with these individuals.
3. Bring your vision of beauty to reality.
Look is important, so let’s get it out of the way first. It’s human nature to gravitate toward those who appear healthy and well-presented.
I can’t say the same for beauty standards, though.
The media creates beauty standards (and basically strangers who have nothing to do with you). Simply said, they don’t work for everyone. To be attractive and find a wonderful spouse, you don’t have to look like a Victoria Secret model.
All you have to do is look your best, which is whatever makes you feel the most loved, confident, and genuine.
Your confidence and vigor will radiate like nothing other when you dare to create your own beauty standard and put work into upholding it for yourself.
4. Be generous with sincere compliments.
Giving genuine compliments and being liberal with your compliments is a simple method to boost your charm and make others want to be around you more.
For starters, it’s a win-win situation for everyone involved, and it’s a great way to boost your self-assurance.
Second, it necessitates seeing the good in others.
When you don’t only see but also vocally appreciate the good in people, they will likely want to bring out that good side of them when they’re with you and recognise the good in you too.
This helps to keep your relationship – romantic or not — in a caring, welcoming, and nutritious environment.
It also makes it simple to flirt with them in a real, lighthearted manner if you have a love interest in them.
5. Keep an open mind.
When you’re out and about meeting new people, keeping your mind open is very important in building connections and creating attraction.
If you have set ideas of how things are and use them to judge others right off the bat, you have robbed yourself off of the opportunities to gain new perspectives that can enrich your life.
Being egotistical also means being closed-minded. It’s negative for everyone involved. It ends the conversation before one can even begin.
The best way to approach a new connection is that you let it unfold naturally.
By all means please do keep your dating goals in mind, but the getting-to-know-each-other process should stay the same regardless of anyone’s agenda:
You listen without judgment or jumping to conclusions; you gather information over time and, after a decent amount of time, you decide whether this connection meets your expectations or not. If not, you let it be what it is.
If anything, you might’ve just got yourself a new good friend who can introduce you to someone who is a more suitable partner for you.
6. Be present.
People often say they like someone who is spontaneous. The dictionary definition of this is “performed or occurring as a result of a sudden impulse or inclination and without premeditation or external stimulus.”
Interestingly, from my personal experiences, most people prefer planning, and what they actually mean by “spontaneous” is the ability to be in the moment. It’s what makes an interaction light, playful, carefree, and full of joy.
When you’re with someone, give them your full attention. Show your authentic self and give them genuine compliments while making smiling eye contact with them.
If they don’t fall for you, they will most likely develop a crush on you.
7. Invest in yourself.
This is a quote that I always remember: “People don’t love you for the emotional energy you put in the relationship; they love you for who you are.”
At the end of the day, it’s about you.
Putting effort into yourself will always pay off. It’s the best investment you could ever make.
It signals to others that you value yourself and you’re indeed very valuable.
It elicits desire from others to be like you, wanted by you, and be with you.
But this isn’t just about being attractive to other people. You should invest in yourself whether you’re in a relationship or not — your education, your career, your well-being, going to the gym, attending therapy, etc.
When life turns south unexpectedly, all the work you’ve put in yourself will be there to save you and help you start over again. You’ll be glad and you’ll be proud.
8. Focusing on adding value to others.
When you meet new people, having a clear dating goal (which you 100% should) can easily make you come across as “pushing for an agenda” and you suddenly have certain expectations that the fragility of a new connection cannot handle.
One way to avoid this pitfall is to focus on adding value to others.
When you add value to others — being helpful to them in any way or simply having genuine fun together, they will like you more and the interaction will become more natural.
You’ll also get more positivity out of the relationship instead of feeling the stress of not knowing whether it will meet your goal and eventually becoming resentful.
After all, all the time spent has been spent; with this approach, at least you know it was well-spent.
Genuinely attractive people make friends and romantic connections everywhere they go. They’re also likely to attract the right people into their lives as they don’t only bring their best selves but also their true selves to the table.
The best thing about these habits is that anyone can practice them to increase their level of attractiveness. They help improve not only a person’s chance of matching with someone they adore but also their quality of life.